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Community is about sharing, participation and fellowship

Community is about Sharing, participation, and Fellowship.

Reading the letters to the editor from Andrea Mikulan and others over recent weeks serves to explain the city’s tagline “city in the country” as these letters underline the fact that while Abbotsford is a city, it is not a community.

A quick check of a dictionary shows that community is not just about a group of people having common interests it also involves/requires sharing, participation, and fellowship.

Sharing, participation and fellowship. Community is not about every citizen having an account and all these accounts balancing out so that what you put in is exactly what you get out. Trying to achieve such a balance is not only unrealistic, it is impossible.

Community is about compromise, about meeting the important needs of people or groups of people within the community. Sharing, participation and fellowship.

Are our Sikh citizens an important part of the community of Abbotsford? Is this crematorium important to that Sikh sub-community? Is there a reason they are seeking to build in/on cemetery Land? (My understanding is that a tenet of their faith requires that such a crematorium be built on cemetery land.)

If you (we) answer yes to these questions, then as a Community Abbotsford must facilitate the process of bringing the crematorium into being and not get bogged down in beguiling, irrelevant arguments.

What do I mean by beguiling, irrelevant arguments? Arguments such as:

“… and have never expected any public funds to meet our private needs.” is an erroneous statement. One of the reasons to get together in a city is to spend public funds on meeting private needs for roads, water and sewage systems, swimming pools, schools etc.

Or perhaps Ms. Mikulan’s point is that with only 20% (Sikh) vs. 80% (non-Sikh) there is not a large enough private need, enough people with a private need for a crematorium for this private need to be become or be considered a public need?

Now there is a dangerous precedent since that logic leads to a quagmire. Following that train of thought since I voted No to Plan A, actively campaigned against Plan A and will never use any of the Plan A facilities I should be exempt from any tax levy to pay for Plan A. Then there are the schools I have never used, the baseball and soccer fields I have never used, the Friendship Garden I will never use and so on and so on and so on ….

“… would negate the principle of separation of church and state, …” I had not realized that this proposal would make the Sikh faith the official religion of Abbotsford and that our laws would now be based on the Sikh faith. The principle or separation refers to preserving the secularity of government and freedom of religious exercise, not to forbidding transactions between government and religious institutions.

Following the logic behind Ms Mikulan’s separation of church and state argument all the churches in Abbotsford would have to relocate in some other jurisdiction since transactions such as property taxes, water and sewage fees etc. would be prohibited. While an interesting concept it is an irrelevant argument.

“… compete head to head with the private funerary businesses …” Yes, so what? We have long, proud tradition in Canada of forming co-operatives to deliver services at reasonable rates. I draw the reader’s attention to our Health Care system, particularly what happened with the private health facility that was opened last year in Vancouver.

“… attract private enterprise …” This is really reaching for straws. Faced with the reputation and behaviours of Abbotsford city hall and council I have grave doubts that the fact the city transferred a piece of the only current property in Abbotsford upon which the crematorium could be built to the Sikh community to build on would ever be a consideration on which a decision would be made on whether or not to locate in Abbotsford would be made.

“ … purchase suitably zoned land, raise the funds and build it.” We are running out of burial plots because of a lack of any other “suitably zoned land”. Perhaps we should suggest they purchase a magic lamp and use the genie to solve this dilemma?

The Sikh community has raised the money to build the crematorium and as I understand it have changed the original proposal so that they will now form a society to be responsible for operations and any losses.

The Abbotsford Ratepayers have suggested that the Sikh community purchase land and have the city turn it into a cemetery. Now assuming that this could (at least in theory) be done in an acceptable time frame this seems pretty reasonable … except for the “…city turn it into a cemetery.” requirement.

As those who have dealt with city hall and council without benefit of friends in the right place can tell you the words reasonable and reasonable time frames have little or nothing to do with city hall and council. If you have any doubts about this I refer you to the people attempting to build a Sandman Inn in Abbotsford.

I can well understand why the Sikh community would prefer the “bird in hand” land of the existing cemetery rather than chance dealing with city hall and council on rezoning and creation of a new cemetery.

This reluctance to rely on the mayor or councillors is made even more understandable by their failure to provide what is most needed on what has become a divisive matter in our city – leadership. Although this lack is not a surprise given the lack of leadership on poverty, hunger, homelessness, mentally illness, addiction and other pressing issues in Abbotsford by council. Indeed the mayor and council’s main goal in dealing with the crematorium issue appears to be to avoid having to stand up and be counted.

The crematorium is important to the Sikh community; the Sikh community is an important part of the community that is (or at least should be) Abbotsford; therefore the crematorium is (or at least should be) important to the Community of Abbotsford.

For our COMMUNITY we must facilitate bringing into being the crematorium. If the only way to achieve this goal in a timely manner is through the use of land in Hazelwood Cemetery, then that is what should, must be done.

Canadian Olympic atheletes deserve better

Canadians do not deserve the athletes they have representing them at the Beijing Olympics.

Anchors, reporters, (so called) sports reporters and far too many other Canadians should hang their heads and apologize for the disparaging statements and attitude heaped on our athletes during the first week of competition.

Watching the cloying behaviour of these same anchors, reporters, sports reporters and other fair-weather Canadians when the terrific performances being turned in by Canadian athletes finally broke through to the podium clearly demonstrated how warped our values have become.

While they were not winning medals our athletes were turning in personal bests and setting new Canadian records. What more can we ask of our athletes, indeed of anyone, than that they perform to the best of their abilities?

People complain about “the kids today” but what life lessons are we teaching them with this “it only counts if you win a medal” attitude?

I salute those who have won medals; it is great to see all their hard work and sacrifice rewarded.

I hail those who pursued their dreams to Beijing, who realistically had no chance of winning a medal and still turned in a personal best performance.

That is character. That is performance.

Keeping it surreal.

Keeping it surreal.

The other day I recieved a reminder of just how subtle the balance of ones mental health and recovery can be.

I was giving an acquaintance a ride. As we were making our way to the car the conversation turned to mental disabilities and he asked about my personal mental health challenges.

It turned out he has a friend who also has to deal with agoraphobia and I was regaled with stories about his friend’s trials and tribulations. I could certainly relate to his friend’s challenges. Unfortunately every attempt to change the subject failed and it was a relief to drop my passenger off.

I breathed a sigh of relief and drove away.

Waking the next morning revealed that there is a certain amount of truth in Clare Booth Luce’s “No good deed goes unpunished” and I had not gotten away scot-free from my good deed providing a ride.

All I wanted to do was pull the covers over my head and stay safe and sound behind my locked front door.

This was not really a head space I wanted to revisit. At that earlier point in time of my life my phone ringing or someone knocking on my front door had me cowering, shaking and frozen in place in a panic attack. People talking outside the front door had my freezing, trembling and praying they would not knock. My front door became a barrier I could not pass beyond.

As I said, not a situation I have any interest or desire in returning to.

Fortunately I do have an interest and desire to practice the needed mental hygiene to stay in recovery. This is why I have a WRAP, a Wellness Recovery Action Plan.

Thus, when I awoke in that bad head space and mired in a negative/unhealthy mind set I did not pull the covers over my head and descend into anxiety, panic and agoraphobic behaviours. Instead I recognized what was happening and reached into my Wellness Toolbox for the mental health tools I needed to work through this … black, dark crap – and recovery my mental balance/health.

It was a long, uncomfortable 2 – 3 days and I spent a lot more time than usual meditating, but in the end I succeeded in letting it all go and finding a place of serenity.

I speak of recovery not of cure because, as this incident served to remind me, mental health (or addiction recovery) can be lost or disturbed unexpectedly and by events beyond one’s control, events that seem innocuous.
Being in a recovery mindset rather than “I am fine, I am cured” mindset lets one recognize and react appropriately before you find yourself not fine and in your illness or addiction again. I facilitate WRAP groups to share the plan that has made and continues to make such a difference in my life and which I feel is a plan, a tool, everyone who has need of it should have in their lives.

One cautionary note to keep in mind should you find yourself in the situation my acquaintance found himself in – DON’T start in on horror tales. They can have unintended negative effects on the listener.

Brought thoughts of the Food Bank to mind

The television news report about Santa in July to raise awareness and donations for the Vancouver Food Bank set me to wondering how our local Abbotsford Food Bank was faring. So I asked the Food Bank Coordinator what the situation is.

The number of people accessing the Food Bank have stabilized somewhat. They are however averaging a couple of new people per day and while a few of those are homeless most aren’t.

I am not surprised that most were not homeless. With the cost of housing in Abbotsford and the increases in what it costs to live (especially gas), more and more families are faced with having less, little, or no money to buy food with.

I would be interested in knowing at what point the addition of a couple of new people every day ceases to be “stable” and becomes a worrisome increase.

The Food Bank is already buying pasta and by Thanksgiving, two short months away, it will be slim pickings. The coordinator is planning to put the word out to his sources this week about the need for funds and/or food donations.

I know it is a busy time of year for many, but by remembering those in our community who need the communities help to have food to eat, we can make sure that come Thanksgiving the Food Bank shelves are stocked – giving all something to be thankful for.

With school looming a food drive would be an auspicious and philanthropic manner to start the school year with, don’t you think?

Please take the time to share and help feed the hungry by supporting our Food Bank.

Lamentation for the Post of Abbotsford/Mission BC


Ask not for whom the bell tolls, it tolls for public debate, discussion and an informed electorate in Abbotsford.

For the year of its independent existence The Post was, as stated by one reader, “A newspaper that takes a stand on behalf of a community; a newspaper that articulates its position through editorials; a newspaper that is not afraid to speak out!”

Readers were treated to political columns penned by three local columnists; an editorial page that was wide open to any subject of interest and importance to the community; an editorial page that granted letter writers words enough to develop arguments and ideas; stories and editorial comment on important community issues such as Plan A.

Readers wrote to express their gratitude for a newspaper that was “… and being ‘different!’ We need another voice for the public…” and the fact that all in all the Post was a “…must read publication.”

Catastrophe, as is so often the case, struck without any warning several weeks ago when CanwestGlobal’s purchased The Post making it part of the Abbotsford Times.

Quietly and without fanfare THE VOICE of public debate, discussion and an informed electorate in Abbotsford was silenced. Bound by the banal, spiritless and don’t rock boat editorial polices of the Times, Post readers have lost political commentary by local columnists and the only free, wide ranging editorial page in Abbotsford.

The timing for the citizens of Abbotsford could scarcely have been worse with this November’s municipal election looming and of such importance to the direction and future of Abbotsford.

When I was growing up community newspapers were a vital part of the community. Were, past tense. Today newspapers are part of chains, often chains with cross-media ownership, no longer rooted in the community but bound to head office and far away ownership.

Ideally Canwest Global would be required to divest itself of either its Vancouver television station, Vancouver Sun, The Province or Abbotsford Times. This does not seem any more of a realistic expectation than hoping for a return to the days of independent owned, community based newspapers.

The problem with CanwestGlobal’s purchase of The Post is that management of the Abbotsford Times quickly proceeded to remove the independent and wide open editorial content from the Post, without changing its (the Times) own editorial policies to be more open and reflective of the entire community not just “the old boys club/network”.

I am not sure how one goes about ensuring wide ranging and open editorial independence that responses to and reflects the needs of the community in which a newspaper resides.

I do know that individual communities and Canada as a whole have lost something vital in losing these independent voices to conglomeration. Given a world and issues of ever increasing complexity, we need to promote and develop independent voices in order to provide citizens with the information required to make the informed decisions needed in order to prosper.